Friday, January 04, 2008
Thank You Ladies and Gentlemen
A man and a woman were approaching the entryway of a public building. Recognizing they would arrive at the door simultaneously, the man quickened his step, opened the door, and stood aside so the woman could enter the building. The woman, obviously offended, stopped and said, “You don’t need to hold the door for me just because I’m a woman.” To which the man aptly replied, “Ma’am, I am not holding the door for you because you’re a woman, I am holding the door for you because I am a gentleman.”
I love that story because it capsulizes a whole philosophy of life – the philosophy that good character should trump outside influences. How refreshing it is to meet people who are doing the right thing because it is in their character, not because a law, a politically-correct pressure group, or a peer has forced them to do so. What a blessing it is to encounter a real lady or a real gentleman.
I would like to thank all the:
- Gentlemen who still hold doors -- because they respect other people.
- Ladies who dress modestly rather than scantily or suggestively -- because they are civilized and tasteful.
- Gentlemen who still avoid cussing and obscene gestures -- because they still exercise self-control.
- Ladies who don’t paint, puncture, overfeed or underfeed their body -- because they have self respect and will not let trends or peer pressure dictate how they care for or present themselves.
- Gentlemen who do not steal or lie -- because they are honest.
- Ladies who do not put themselves in situations where drugs or alcohol cause them to hurt others or themselves -- because they are responsible.
- The gentlemen who are faithful to one wife and who take care of their children -- because God designed families to be safe that way.
- Ladies who selflessly nurture their children – because it is one of the greatest privileges in life.
Such people make for a great society and for great families. I have often heard people argue that there is no such thing as “Leave it to Beaver families” any more. Such families are considered nerdy, dorky or boring. I would contend that safe, kind, self-respecting families are not only possible, but they are the only hope for a faltering society. Politicians, programs, laws, or even dictators are powerless to give this kind of life to anyone. This kind of life must be laid hold of individual by individual…. day by day… choice by choice. People who develop these qualities are rare and valuable, indeed.
I was born to a lady and a gentlemen. They were not afraid to instill character into me even though I was a toddler in the 60s. Later, in high school, I took a good deal of flack because I chose not to drink, sleep around or do drugs. I am not as proud of that as I am thankful for those who prompted me to make choices that would serve me well. The most valuable things my parents gave me were imposed discipline, morals and values. I have since researched, tested and accepted them for my own. I don’t live the way I do because a church, government, peer group or society force me to; I live the way I do because it is who I am.
When God came up with the idea of people, His goal was to give everyone a life that was “rich and satisfying.” (see John 10:10 NLT) That kind of life starts with character. Are you truly your own person? Are you brave enough to buck culture, trends, talking heads, and peer pressure in order to be someone you can respect? Being a genuine lady or gentleman is nothing to be ashamed of… everybody wins when you exhibit good character without apology.
Ladies and Gentlemen: thank you for seasoning our society with goodness. I, for one, would like to make your acquaintance.
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